A thank you letter to the men in my life:
Dad – Thank you for loving your only daughter so wholly and fully, without judgement towards me as a woman or pressure to be something else. Thank you for allowing and encouraging me to dream big and about whatever I wanted. Those dreams ranged from being an orthopedic surgeon to being a police officer and you supported all of them in their own right. Never once did you say that since I am a female, maybe I would be better suited for this or that. I can’t tell you how much that eternal belief in my ability to succeed and do whatever I wanted has impacted me in every aspect of my life. I wouldn’t be as strong, independent and proud to be female without having had you as my father.
Hugo – Thank you for loving me as your wife and, more importantly, as your friend and equal partner. Since joining our lives together at twenty years old, you always look at me as we stand, side by side, as equals. I was never a woman in your eyes, I was a person who you loved. As I dreamed of how to proceed professionally in my life, you supported it all, without missing a beat or questioning if I could handle it. You pushed me to push myself and I thank you for your love and friendship. As we have watched friends condescend on their spouses through the years, my heart is whole knowing that you have always spoken so proudly of me as your wife and encouraged my success as a strong female in the world. You are a shining example of how men should treat women and you do it every day without even trying.
To the two men who have loved me for the entirety of my thirty-four years on Earth – one of you picked up where the other one left off. After Dad raised me, Hugo became my partner in crime after moving out of my childhood home. Your similarities are great, in that you both have pure, generous hearts, and your love knows no bounds. I’m not sure how I got so lucky to have the two of you in my circle but I must have done something right in my prior life.
You might wonder where all of my thankful, female rambles originated from tonight…well, here is a little back story. After Hugo and I finished watching The Haunting of Hill House, which is absolutely wonderful by the way, another #MeToo movement moment flashed on the news feed. We chatted briefly about this never-ending phenomenon and it occurred to me that I have been extraordinarily lucky to have been raised and loved by such genuinely wonderful men. As I watch so many other women be demeaned, belittled and degraded by those close to them and predators alike, I am grateful for the love and support I have always received. I only hope that men and women continue to raise their children with a remarkable sense of love, support and purpose. Then, one day, they can hand their children, now all grown up, off to someone who will continue the good work those parents have done.
With love in my heart and all around me, goodnight ♥